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Mum devastated after brother disinvites her newborn from his wedding

A woman was left stunned after her brother told her that her baby wouldn’t be invited to his wedding.

In an anonymous post on Mumsnet, the woman explained that her brother’s wedding had been cancelled twice as a result of coronavirus restrictions.

Now, the wedding has now been rearranged for August, which meant her newborn would either be a couple of weeks or days old.

A few days after she broke the news to her brother on Zoom, he told her that the baby wasn’t invited because it was “unfortunate timing.”

“I was devastated,” she said.

“My mother told him and my future [sister-in-law] the reality of having a newborn and how we can’t be separated and if there were issues the baby would be taken out,” she said.

“My brother looked embarrassed but future [sister-in-law] said the baby would be a distraction from the wedding with aunts and cousins naturally wanting to see him.”

But because the restrictions meant they weren’t able to plan the wedding as they wanted, she felt sorry for them.

After coming to terms with the new plans, she told her brother that she would come alone to the ceremony and her husband would pop into the reception to wish them well.

But then he dropped the second bombshell.

Her brother then informed her that her husband was no longer invited either.

The woman said: “He was only invited as he is my husband and they don’t want him popping in and causing a distraction.

“I am so upset it is actually hurting. There is no backstory. We have all always got on. There has never been any hint of either of them being anything other than down to earth.”

She took to Mumsnet to ask users: “Would you be upset? Would you say anything?” and everyone said that they wouldn’t attend.

One person wrote: “Your brother having a st year is no excuse for treating your family like cp. Sorry, but nothing does.

“Say as space is obviously tight you’re giving up yours and then send a card.”

Another said: “[Sister-in-law] is worried and jealous over a baby. A BABY. So let her have her day. Your brother will see how silly she is being even if he doesn’t voice it.”

Whilst a third added: “Honestly, you’ll probably feel so exhausted in the first few weeks/months of caring for a newborn, the last thing you’ll feel like doing is dragging yourself out of the house to attend the wedding.”

“They are being completely ridiculous, just don’t go. What is it about weddings that send people mad like this?” asked a fourth.